Adulthood is hard. Motherhood is harder but also the most rewarding in my opinion. There’s nothing more I’d rather be than Asher and Iylah’s mommy but sometimes it’s nice to have a “break.” This is why it’s so important to have a close circle with whom you can relate to, share experiences with, and most importantly be able to sit back and have a little fun with. My husband and I are blessed with a great group of friends. Many of us girls have been friends since elementary school. It’s so rare to still maintain such a close bond after all of these years and we treasure it. With such a long history there’s never a shortage of conversation.
Just recently we’ve started doing a monthly friends gathering to stay connected, play games and for those of us who have kids, to see each other’s little ones. We take turns hosting and pick a theme for our meal such as mexican night, BBQ/cookout food, etc. It seems that life in the 21st century is busier than ever for everyone. It’s so hard to carve out time to do anything outside of your normal routine. I’ve found since becoming a mom, it’s vital to have adult time and a little time for myself. I don’t feel guilty about it because my babies are my number one priority and always will be and I give my all to them. I absolutely love being with them everyday as a SAHM and wouldn’t trade it for anything, however, getting a little “me” time once in awhile makes me a better mom and allows me to step back and reflect on how fortunate I am for my family and all of the blessings that surround me. When one gets caught up in their everyday life, it’s so easy to take things for granted and lose site of all the fortunes life has to offer. Living a balanced life is so fulfilling.
Oh, and what about my husband? It is vital for mom and dad to get quality time together too! We are so fortunate to have amazing parents who love watching the babies so we can have a date night on occasion. Between my husband’s busy work schedule and us raising infant twins it’s so easy for us to lose touch if we don’t make a conscious effort to stay connected. I don’t think parents should ever feel guilty about leaving their children for a night out alone. Strong and connected parents make for a strong and connected family unit, hopefully giving the children something to strive for one day. Are you a single parent? If so, you are more deserving than anyone for some much needed “you” time. I admire all of the single parents out there fulfilling the role of mom and dad. My hat’s off to you.
How do you manage to squeeze in time for yourself? I’d love to hear from other mamas out there!
Cheers to a blessed, balanced and beautiful life.